Christian courtship before dating
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For those of us who have grown up in the church, probably the cardinal rule of dating that is hammered home again and again and AGAIN is to never date an unbeliever.This is because if you date an unbeliever, you will have premarital sex, never go to church again, and basically ruin the rest of your life.
In the same thread at Boundless, Corwin aptly sums up the Christian Dating Problem from the male perspective: I’ll be completely honest with you, I hate Christian dating, haven’t been on a date in well over a year, and have little interest in dating a Christian girl ever again because it often seems like first and second dates are more like a driver’s licence exam than a social evening.Sorry if this is a downer, guys – just feeling frustrated at the moment. John Piper warns his readers, “Beware of conjecture about what lies in the pages of this book!I don’t know how I’ll get to marriage someday (something I highly value, study and prepare for, desire, respect, etc.) if I can’t even get to a first date.I suppose I’ll keep asking God to work a miracle, because I think that may be what it will take!(You can tell if you attend such a church, because if you mention a young man to the women at church, the first or second thing they will ask about him is if he is a Christian. It sounds like CO Springs has a pretty great Christian singles dating scene. Just kidding, of course…but I’ve been a little discouraged this weekend.
If you say “no” or “I don’t know,” they will immediately advise you never to date a nonbeliever.) But – are you doomed to zero dates over the course of a decade or more, potentially turning down a number of men just because they swore in front of you? I’ll be turning 33 years old this week, and I haven’t ever been on a first date as an adult, let alone a 2nd date.
And again, all this seems like a solid game plan……..provided you’re married by age 25.
It’s just – what about the rest of us for whom that cutoff point passes, and we’re still single?
Did he show ability to take risks by asking me out in person? Did he show ability to provide by jumping up to pay for my coffee?
Nope, he was in the bathroom when I ordered, so I had to pay — three demerits.
On the one hand, you have the hard-liners who feel that The Bible Says, and if you never go on that first date with a non-Christian, you will never have to deal with all the problems that come from Unequal Yokeage, which is the whole point of The Bible Says in the first place. Those people who have to spend time with their children?