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In the world of gay online dating, your race affects your romantic and sexual connections, whether your potential partners realize it or not.Systems of oppression based on race sometimes pressure queer men of color to lie about or hide their racial/ethnic identity in online dating spaces like Grindr in order to get positive romantic and sexual attention.
One is named after Nathan Bedford Forrest, a lieutenant general in the Confederate Army. Both are men I would trust to raise and protect my son should the need arise. Or wonder whether Justin Timberlake’s prowess on the dance floor translated into, well, other areas. It was not a hard-and-fast rule, as in: I don’t date white guys.White gay men also respond less frequently to messages in general than gay men of color.On Ok Cupid white gay men respond to messages from all races at an average rate of 41.4%, but gay men of color respond to messages from all races at an average rate of 49.3%.Queerness does not give whites a pass to be openly racist.Most queer whites know the pain of social marginalization, yet they marginalize queer people of color in online dating communities.And, then there are the unspoken questions once inherent in any semi-intimate interaction with a white guy: Do you want to date me as a way to stick it to grandma?
Will my “ Richard Tanne’s film “Southside with You” tells the story of Barack and Michelle Obama’s first date.Based on data published by Ok Trends, a blog produced by Ok Cupid, white gay men respond more often to Ok Cupid messages from other white men than from men of color.They respond to messages from other white men 44% of the time but respond only 37.3% of the time to men of color.These data illustrate that one’s race/ethnicity affects one’s romantic and sexual value in queer communities. Ok Cupid’s data sheds light on casual racism in queer online dating communities, but overt racism is also prevalent.Blogs like “Douchebags of Grindr,” though insensitively titled, point out overtly racist headlines gay men post on their Grindr profiles such as “no blacks” or “white only.” Often, white men attempt to minimize the social harm of their overt racism by claiming their comments are merely “preferences.” But these so-called preferences cause significant harm.So I decided to explore why I could love white men like family but not envision them as potential partners. Love for men who move through the world in ways that remind me of my father. A black man comfortable in his skin and walking in his purpose remains the ideal. There is also the fact that I was raised a good Southern black woman, albeit one freer than most.